12-13-2010, 02:55 PM
well my friend when it comes to depression from my own i have learned that only you can help yourself get out of it, but this is not always right in every situation so i would say since she is cutting herself she is trying to cope with it, i would say you have to be there for her, make her open up to you even if that means saying things about yourself that no one else knows. Obviously this is a very private (in lack of better words) discussion you will try to have with her. first make sure you two are alone and will not be interrupted for a long time, start with small talk and gradually build up to more in depth talks.(having a game plan might help) Or if you dont want to feed around the bush you can get right to the point but do it slowly like ask her is there anything she wants to talk about and you be the first one to open up by sharing your feelings and concerns about this. Tell her how you feel and that you will do anything to help her and all she has to do is ask, if your lucky and she opens up try to find out what is bothering her (other then the obvious) like does she blame herself for it or something like that. Dont give any advice since it may do more harm then good, just be their and support her and give her a better outlet other then cutting herself. I would personally say after her opening up with me i would give her my number (if she doesnt already have it) and tell her when she feels like cutting herself to call me instead no matter the time or place. Good luck my friend.