First off, I'd do your best to keep your mother away from your grandmother. Your mother can get arrested for abusing her just the same as if your grandmother was a child. What else irks me is how you didn't step in to protect your grandmother, knowing she has no idea what's going on around her, no real grasp on reality anymore. Were you more inclined to protect yourself from your mother's rage? You could have intervened and made your mother realize that what she was doing was WRONG, and to be honest, I would have decked my mother flat out for doing that to my grandmother - stress or not, that's no excuse to abuse someone. Regardless if she was going to explode on you - much healthier less frail person, she was hurting your emotionally traumatized grandmother. Limit the time your mother has, even if that means asking someone else or a good friend to come sit with your grandmother in the basement while you're at your own life obligations. Keep them separated as much as you can, and this will help your mother to not feel like she needs to physically punish someone who can't even help their own actions anymore. Since your grandmother is more childlike, offer her simpler tasks like coloring things or playing with some really sturdy child toys so she avoids breaking things in the house. Make a room in the house where she can do this, there is only one exit and someone can monitor her easily by just walking by or using a baby monitor. Put lots of things in there that will keep her entertained so she doesn't feel the need to mess with other objects in the house, and if her attention slips from one object and she wanders from the room, try to get her attention with something else. I'm not saying keep her prisoner in this room, but it's for keeping her away from your mother who will continue to hit her and yell at her due to stress..
Maybe, take her to a park for a good walk and let her get out of the house herself -with someone with her - rather than it being a punishment like your mother made it out to be. She is NOT an animal. She needs to be loved and taken care of even if she's a pain in your family's ass. In the above posts, you mention talking to her. She's childlike now, remember, so keep the conversation short and simple. Use your hands to keep her attention and even if it seems like she's not listening, she probably is. You have to be extremely patient with her now.
From experience, your grandmother has reverted to protect her mind, and possibly coupled with some memory loss like you've mentioned. She was probably dealing with some memory issues before hand but this situation just made it much worse. You mention you've been to see multiple doctors. Have you explained everything to them and not left anything out? Sometimes, this helps them to get a better grasp on what's going on and often times leads to a better diagnosis. I don't see any signs of PTSD as signs of this are nightmares, flashbacks, panic disorder/anxiety disorder, the list goes on. The only one I could see making this a legit case of PTSD is maybe the forgetting the event but that could also be due to the memory degrading. I'd call a person that specializes in PTSD and talk with them, tell them everything and see what they tell you. Also speak with someone that specializes with memory loss and Alzheimers; she seems to have many symptoms of this. Your problems right now is to get professional help in ruling out what's going on with her, and regular doctors won't cut it in this department. Even take the video in, and show these professionals or recommend that they watch it or even take your grandmother to see them face to face. Your mother gave up, but you don't have to.
You also mentioned having someone come in and talk to her? I suggest trying this again after you rule out what's going on so they can target the areas that need to be targeted rather than poking around in the dark. Her memory comes and goes or she forgets in general and her activities are sheerly based on the fact that she can't remember things about her daily life? This would explain the listlessness. Just remember she doesn't mean to break things, or act this way, her mind is just getting away from her. If anything I feel sorry for her and I wish to do anything in my power to help her, even if I don't know her or your family.
I hope this helps you at all, and if you need anymore help in finding decent numbers of people to call or just to talk about it more, please PM me and I'll help anyway I can. And PLEASE keep her away from your mother. I don't know your mother from Eve, but she seems unable to handle the stress of your grandmother and unless you want your grandmother severely hurt then separate them. I can't stress that enough.
Maybe, take her to a park for a good walk and let her get out of the house herself -with someone with her - rather than it being a punishment like your mother made it out to be. She is NOT an animal. She needs to be loved and taken care of even if she's a pain in your family's ass. In the above posts, you mention talking to her. She's childlike now, remember, so keep the conversation short and simple. Use your hands to keep her attention and even if it seems like she's not listening, she probably is. You have to be extremely patient with her now.
From experience, your grandmother has reverted to protect her mind, and possibly coupled with some memory loss like you've mentioned. She was probably dealing with some memory issues before hand but this situation just made it much worse. You mention you've been to see multiple doctors. Have you explained everything to them and not left anything out? Sometimes, this helps them to get a better grasp on what's going on and often times leads to a better diagnosis. I don't see any signs of PTSD as signs of this are nightmares, flashbacks, panic disorder/anxiety disorder, the list goes on. The only one I could see making this a legit case of PTSD is maybe the forgetting the event but that could also be due to the memory degrading. I'd call a person that specializes in PTSD and talk with them, tell them everything and see what they tell you. Also speak with someone that specializes with memory loss and Alzheimers; she seems to have many symptoms of this. Your problems right now is to get professional help in ruling out what's going on with her, and regular doctors won't cut it in this department. Even take the video in, and show these professionals or recommend that they watch it or even take your grandmother to see them face to face. Your mother gave up, but you don't have to.
You also mentioned having someone come in and talk to her? I suggest trying this again after you rule out what's going on so they can target the areas that need to be targeted rather than poking around in the dark. Her memory comes and goes or she forgets in general and her activities are sheerly based on the fact that she can't remember things about her daily life? This would explain the listlessness. Just remember she doesn't mean to break things, or act this way, her mind is just getting away from her. If anything I feel sorry for her and I wish to do anything in my power to help her, even if I don't know her or your family.
I hope this helps you at all, and if you need anymore help in finding decent numbers of people to call or just to talk about it more, please PM me and I'll help anyway I can. And PLEASE keep her away from your mother. I don't know your mother from Eve, but she seems unable to handle the stress of your grandmother and unless you want your grandmother severely hurt then separate them. I can't stress that enough.