11-20-2010, 07:06 PM
Yeah-you have A LOT goin' on, right? So, simplify it, dude. You know that saying?
"Life is messy-Clean it up!"
1st things 1st-You need to keep it real with everybody-so start with yourself. YOU need TIME to figure out what you WANT.
2nd-Tell the girl you're guilt-trippin' over the truth, which is: IT'S NOT HEALTHY for EITHER OF YOU to be in a relationship based on fear and guilt. Tell her you care about her and you wish her well but YOU BOTH need to take a break from each other in order to figure out your own INDIVIDUAL problems.
3rd-Let the other girl know-you're focusing on getting your act together just so she has that heads-up in case she is secretly hoping you will get your act together someday...
4th-I'm REALLY SORRY about your Dad and this could probably be up there with 1st things 1st-You need to spend as much TIME with your Dad as you can (and don't even trouble yourself with worrying about your Dad's relationship with his Mom-that's their thing-let them do what they will...remember your goal is to simplify YOUR life.)
5th-Since it is YOUR life-Do Yourself a Big Favor and get your A$$ in college. At least start in on a few classes. Focus on doing really well in one or two classes and build on those as you are able...
1st-5th takes care of the 6th-If you clean up your own past, focus on your own future and support your parents as much as you can during the present-your Mom won't fall apart.
7th-Lighten up. Learn to LAUGH at life-it's more fun than the alternative.
"Life is messy-Clean it up!"
1st things 1st-You need to keep it real with everybody-so start with yourself. YOU need TIME to figure out what you WANT.
2nd-Tell the girl you're guilt-trippin' over the truth, which is: IT'S NOT HEALTHY for EITHER OF YOU to be in a relationship based on fear and guilt. Tell her you care about her and you wish her well but YOU BOTH need to take a break from each other in order to figure out your own INDIVIDUAL problems.
3rd-Let the other girl know-you're focusing on getting your act together just so she has that heads-up in case she is secretly hoping you will get your act together someday...
4th-I'm REALLY SORRY about your Dad and this could probably be up there with 1st things 1st-You need to spend as much TIME with your Dad as you can (and don't even trouble yourself with worrying about your Dad's relationship with his Mom-that's their thing-let them do what they will...remember your goal is to simplify YOUR life.)
5th-Since it is YOUR life-Do Yourself a Big Favor and get your A$$ in college. At least start in on a few classes. Focus on doing really well in one or two classes and build on those as you are able...
1st-5th takes care of the 6th-If you clean up your own past, focus on your own future and support your parents as much as you can during the present-your Mom won't fall apart.
7th-Lighten up. Learn to LAUGH at life-it's more fun than the alternative.