11-12-2010, 02:24 AM
Dear, Dear Xander,
Have you ever heard the saying, “Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem?” Think about that.
ALL of the problems you are dealing with ARE temporary and guess what? It is within YOUR POWER to limit the duration of these problems. That is to say, the sooner you REACH OUT for the help that you need to overcome these problems-the sooner you WILL FIND RELIEF. I PROMISE YOU-You can overcome ALL of the difficulties you are currently “dodging.”
FIRST THINGS FIRST-You need to stop trying to dodge your problems, i.e., numb your feelings, through drug and alcohol abuse. This has become your #1 problem because it just makes EVERYTHING WORSE. With the habit that you describe-you most definitely need to get some outside help.
AS YOU WORK ON OVERCOMING YOUR ADDICTIONS, you will gain the stability you need to cope with the other problems/negative feelings you mentioned. More importantly, you will learn to balance the “bad” by focusing on the “good.” If you honestly can’t find anything “good” in your life right now, it just means you haven’t look hard enough. TRUST ME-LIFE IS GOOD. It’s rarely easy but IT DOES GET EASIER to find simple pleasures.
Make it your aim to seek out positive experiences and then start adding them up. Keep track of the things that make you FEEL GOOD and let those things cancel out the bad. Yes, you have had some tough breaks and maybe you can’t find any joy right this second. Still, right this second you can be grateful that your set of circumstances are better than _______. Fill in the blank with the tragedy of your choice.
For instance: Your abuse of alcohol has not led you to drink and drive and kill someone, YET. You’re not rotting in a prison cell because of your drug abuse, YET. You get the point. Things really could be worse and in worse ways than I have outlined, right? So, the question is: How bad do they need to get before you DO SOMETHING TO MAKE THINGS BETTER?
If they are to the point to where you're considering suicide-I’d say, “They’re BAD ENOUGH.” Seriously, suicide IS NOT AN OPTION. Plain and simple. Life is all about choices and we must ALWAYS CHOOSE LIFE. You haven’t even given your life ½ a chance, YET. Please, Give YOURSELF a break and get some help.
Have you ever heard the saying, “Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem?” Think about that.
ALL of the problems you are dealing with ARE temporary and guess what? It is within YOUR POWER to limit the duration of these problems. That is to say, the sooner you REACH OUT for the help that you need to overcome these problems-the sooner you WILL FIND RELIEF. I PROMISE YOU-You can overcome ALL of the difficulties you are currently “dodging.”
FIRST THINGS FIRST-You need to stop trying to dodge your problems, i.e., numb your feelings, through drug and alcohol abuse. This has become your #1 problem because it just makes EVERYTHING WORSE. With the habit that you describe-you most definitely need to get some outside help.
AS YOU WORK ON OVERCOMING YOUR ADDICTIONS, you will gain the stability you need to cope with the other problems/negative feelings you mentioned. More importantly, you will learn to balance the “bad” by focusing on the “good.” If you honestly can’t find anything “good” in your life right now, it just means you haven’t look hard enough. TRUST ME-LIFE IS GOOD. It’s rarely easy but IT DOES GET EASIER to find simple pleasures.
Make it your aim to seek out positive experiences and then start adding them up. Keep track of the things that make you FEEL GOOD and let those things cancel out the bad. Yes, you have had some tough breaks and maybe you can’t find any joy right this second. Still, right this second you can be grateful that your set of circumstances are better than _______. Fill in the blank with the tragedy of your choice.
For instance: Your abuse of alcohol has not led you to drink and drive and kill someone, YET. You’re not rotting in a prison cell because of your drug abuse, YET. You get the point. Things really could be worse and in worse ways than I have outlined, right? So, the question is: How bad do they need to get before you DO SOMETHING TO MAKE THINGS BETTER?
If they are to the point to where you're considering suicide-I’d say, “They’re BAD ENOUGH.” Seriously, suicide IS NOT AN OPTION. Plain and simple. Life is all about choices and we must ALWAYS CHOOSE LIFE. You haven’t even given your life ½ a chance, YET. Please, Give YOURSELF a break and get some help.