11-04-2010, 03:21 PM
My entire family is on the verge of collapsing. It's gotten incredibly worse to the point that my mother has begun physically penalizing my grandmother for her actions.
For instance, when I returned from school today, I heard my mother yelling at my grandmother from outside my home, just as I was entering my key into the keyhole. I opened the door to find my mother slapping my grandmothers hands repeatedly as she was touching things she wasn't supposed to and as a result making them fall and break. No matter what my mom tells my grandmother, whether it be "Leave me the hell alone, you're driving me nuts!", my grandmother has a very hard time understanding her reasoning and simply begins to reply "Yes, but--", before my mom cuts her off again yelling her brains out. This time, the same occurred but my mom had spent the entire day with my grandmother so I assume she had built up some stress over the course of the day. Second after I put my bag down in my room, I find my mother shoving my grandmother across our hallway from behind her. She begins yelling "That's it, I've had it. Get out! I don't want to see you anymore! Get out of my face! Get out! GET OUT!!" Normally, I freak out. I was afraid to intervene as even the slightest word may have ticked my mother off.
So, my grandmother left with her jacket, only barely. She didn't even have it on properly. Anyways. My mom always makes her sit on our front balcony so she thought she'd be sitting there. But a couple of minutes later, we went to check up on her and she was gone. My mom insists that she will go find her, as if it nothing big and that she does it all the time. So, evidently, I felt like crap, so I took my keys and phone, locked up and left to find her too. I ended up finding her about five minutes down our street speaking with a stranger. I told the man thank you for having kept her safe for the time being and walked home with her. On the way home, I tried to explain her to give my mom some breathing room but she's practically a vegetable. She doesn't understand what people tell her, most of the time. For instance, you can tell her that she's fat and ugly and she'll just shrug "Ya", in a monotone voice, as if she's so depressed and out of place. She doesn't know where she is half the time. She wanders from one room to another by feeling door frames, even the sheer daylight.
On with the incident. I proceeded with bringing her home. I took it upon myself to have her stay with me in our basement while I continue my work online and put on a movie for her to watch, just so that my mom can relax a little bit. But it don't know what to do anymore. I mean, sooner or later, my mom is going to blow. And I'm afraid when she does, she's going to unintentionally hurt my grandmother. She's already bruised her by pushing her and shoving her all the time, just because she stresses her out.
I have no more options. A nursing home is out of the questions and I've already helped out as much as I could but there's only so much I can do when I'm home. When I'm working, at school or out for the night, my mother is home breaking her back trying to reason with a damn wall, so to speak.
I need advice, and preferably from someone that cared enough to read all this. There's no tl;dr for this. If you don't have the sympathy to inform yourself, please don't reply. Likewise, I'd like to hear serious responses because frankly, at this point in the issue, I have very little patience for nonsense some of you may have to offer.
Thank you in advance for reading and possibly replying.
For instance, when I returned from school today, I heard my mother yelling at my grandmother from outside my home, just as I was entering my key into the keyhole. I opened the door to find my mother slapping my grandmothers hands repeatedly as she was touching things she wasn't supposed to and as a result making them fall and break. No matter what my mom tells my grandmother, whether it be "Leave me the hell alone, you're driving me nuts!", my grandmother has a very hard time understanding her reasoning and simply begins to reply "Yes, but--", before my mom cuts her off again yelling her brains out. This time, the same occurred but my mom had spent the entire day with my grandmother so I assume she had built up some stress over the course of the day. Second after I put my bag down in my room, I find my mother shoving my grandmother across our hallway from behind her. She begins yelling "That's it, I've had it. Get out! I don't want to see you anymore! Get out of my face! Get out! GET OUT!!" Normally, I freak out. I was afraid to intervene as even the slightest word may have ticked my mother off.
So, my grandmother left with her jacket, only barely. She didn't even have it on properly. Anyways. My mom always makes her sit on our front balcony so she thought she'd be sitting there. But a couple of minutes later, we went to check up on her and she was gone. My mom insists that she will go find her, as if it nothing big and that she does it all the time. So, evidently, I felt like crap, so I took my keys and phone, locked up and left to find her too. I ended up finding her about five minutes down our street speaking with a stranger. I told the man thank you for having kept her safe for the time being and walked home with her. On the way home, I tried to explain her to give my mom some breathing room but she's practically a vegetable. She doesn't understand what people tell her, most of the time. For instance, you can tell her that she's fat and ugly and she'll just shrug "Ya", in a monotone voice, as if she's so depressed and out of place. She doesn't know where she is half the time. She wanders from one room to another by feeling door frames, even the sheer daylight.
On with the incident. I proceeded with bringing her home. I took it upon myself to have her stay with me in our basement while I continue my work online and put on a movie for her to watch, just so that my mom can relax a little bit. But it don't know what to do anymore. I mean, sooner or later, my mom is going to blow. And I'm afraid when she does, she's going to unintentionally hurt my grandmother. She's already bruised her by pushing her and shoving her all the time, just because she stresses her out.
I have no more options. A nursing home is out of the questions and I've already helped out as much as I could but there's only so much I can do when I'm home. When I'm working, at school or out for the night, my mother is home breaking her back trying to reason with a damn wall, so to speak.
I need advice, and preferably from someone that cared enough to read all this. There's no tl;dr for this. If you don't have the sympathy to inform yourself, please don't reply. Likewise, I'd like to hear serious responses because frankly, at this point in the issue, I have very little patience for nonsense some of you may have to offer.
Thank you in advance for reading and possibly replying.