10-22-2010, 08:44 PM
(This post was last modified: 10-22-2010, 08:47 PM by AceInfinity.)
well i'm sure there are some to talk to here that can help. It's not often that you get a girl coming to a forum like this for help by the way, not that i'm against it, but glad to have you here 
Feeling lonely would be something that I can understand based on what he does. I would suggest talking to him. Being parent's isn't a one person thing, it takes the committment of both people to be successful. If he isn't willing to be committed to you then thats another problem. A night away or so is a good thing, as long as he explains to you where he goes, and how long he might be gone for, so that you don't have to keep the door unlocked. That would be a security issue that I could understand you might be concerned with.
He's doing the immature thing and going out whenever he pleases, which is the overall picture in my mind. He should be looking after you if you're still pregnant. And when he does go out, he should definitely tell you the times he will be back. You should talk to him, thats my advice.
You definitely have every right to know these things, and you should confront him with that in a way that you can both come to the understanding.
One HUGE, thing.. "COMMUNICATION"
The most important thing in relationships, from family, to being married to someone. Girlfriends, or boyfriends. Communication is big. Otherwise human nature will usually lead people to conclusions from assumptions that might not be so true. Thats the number one cause of corrupted relationships in the world today. You have to talk to him so that the both of you can see each others perspectives on the story. Then come to a resolution or agreement that you both make so that you can improve this problem.
Don't forget about communication ever. And also when and if you decide to talk with him, make sure he knows this as well. If you both know that communication is important, (and trust me, it is) then both of you shouldn't have a problem talking to each other if one of you starts to feel differently about something, or if something upsets one or the other. Thats how you can be there for each other, which is the whole point of being together is all about.
Hope this helps, good luck
Feeling lonely would be something that I can understand based on what he does. I would suggest talking to him. Being parent's isn't a one person thing, it takes the committment of both people to be successful. If he isn't willing to be committed to you then thats another problem. A night away or so is a good thing, as long as he explains to you where he goes, and how long he might be gone for, so that you don't have to keep the door unlocked. That would be a security issue that I could understand you might be concerned with.
He's doing the immature thing and going out whenever he pleases, which is the overall picture in my mind. He should be looking after you if you're still pregnant. And when he does go out, he should definitely tell you the times he will be back. You should talk to him, thats my advice.
You definitely have every right to know these things, and you should confront him with that in a way that you can both come to the understanding.
One HUGE, thing.. "COMMUNICATION"
The most important thing in relationships, from family, to being married to someone. Girlfriends, or boyfriends. Communication is big. Otherwise human nature will usually lead people to conclusions from assumptions that might not be so true. Thats the number one cause of corrupted relationships in the world today. You have to talk to him so that the both of you can see each others perspectives on the story. Then come to a resolution or agreement that you both make so that you can improve this problem.
Don't forget about communication ever. And also when and if you decide to talk with him, make sure he knows this as well. If you both know that communication is important, (and trust me, it is) then both of you shouldn't have a problem talking to each other if one of you starts to feel differently about something, or if something upsets one or the other. Thats how you can be there for each other, which is the whole point of being together is all about.
Hope this helps, good luck