08-25-2010, 10:13 AM
It is rather difficult to know what her intentions are. It could be simple curiousity about people from her past, or it could be more. But as a woman, the chat excerpt you posted unsettles me. Who suggested catching up?
( Side note: what can one possibly catch up on at a church anyway? If the topic is about religion or ecclesiastical details, it is more fruitful to talk about it with a religious leader or scholar. If the topic is about each other, you would have to wait until after church to catch up, since it is fairly improper to chatter during Sunday mass. Which means that catching up will most likely occur over a brunch or lunch booking. )
For the moment, don't imagine and act the worst. You have already confronted her about the issue, and she has said that she didn't intend on seeing him. Tell her that you would prefer her to inform you of similar situations, admit to her that this has unsettled you, and then let the situation rest as it is. If she cares about how you feel, she will try to see it from your point of view and not be judgmental or defensive towards your request.
Good luck.
( Side note: what can one possibly catch up on at a church anyway? If the topic is about religion or ecclesiastical details, it is more fruitful to talk about it with a religious leader or scholar. If the topic is about each other, you would have to wait until after church to catch up, since it is fairly improper to chatter during Sunday mass. Which means that catching up will most likely occur over a brunch or lunch booking. )
For the moment, don't imagine and act the worst. You have already confronted her about the issue, and she has said that she didn't intend on seeing him. Tell her that you would prefer her to inform you of similar situations, admit to her that this has unsettled you, and then let the situation rest as it is. If she cares about how you feel, she will try to see it from your point of view and not be judgmental or defensive towards your request.
Good luck.