(12-25-2011, 10:15 PM)Lala Wrote: Today I found out my dad has been having a cyber relationship for 6 months with a random girl on the internet, could be a male who knows. He's been sending her A LOT of money. He's neglected my sisters, myself and my mum. He didn't bother celebrating Christmas with us, he just slept all day and spoke to his cyber girlfriend. Instead of buying my mum gifts for her birthday, he decided to send his cyber girlfriend gifts.
I told my mum and older sister, we confronted him and he said he would rather her than us and we were never close to anything. You're probably thinking like "poor you", but I am really happy guys. My parents are probably getting split up or a divorce. My dad has done nothing in my life except put me down, physically and verbally abused me and neglected me.
The thing is, now I need to tell my little sister. She's really academic and a goodie goodie girl. Idk how I am going to cope with this guys.
Also, I am the new man of the house so I need some tips aswell.
One thing you need to know, it's not your fault. Your dad, is possible going to divorce your mom. It will get better though, i've been through parents splitting. I highly recommend that they do though, if he has neglected and abused you, he will get it later in life. No one, including his cyber girlfriend will be there when he is in need. Theirs many girls like "her," that social engineer a man with her female act, and the way she talks. Also, if your dad ever wants to see you in the future, deny him. If he asks for a favor, because he has gotten into a bad situation, still deny him it doesn't matter if he is your father. Also, telling your sister can be a problem. I don't know how old, but as far as I know if she is old than 12, she can cope with it after a while (unless she's happy also). If she is young, she might not actually understand, and deny it at first. Then, she would realise it and freak out begging for it not to happen, unless she doesn't care either. If you mean goodie goodie as in your dad cares for her, then she would probably freak out and take his side unless you explain throughly.
Also, when you're then man of the house spray for bugs (I hate them, and when my mom moved into our new house, we had a bug problem). Also, make sure you support your mom and help her, it will be hard for her.
Pardon any of my grammar mistakes, and I hope this helped!