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09-08-2010, 06:58 AM
(This post was last modified: 09-08-2010, 07:01 AM by NekoChan.)
My girl is having sex with other boys, like second time in our relationship.
Been together for a month or so.
Well she is having sex with others and idc
Is that weird?
When she is trying to be honest with me and tells me these things, I only laugh
But I really love her and I don't think sex is a big deal, its all natural lol.
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I don't think weird is the right way to describe it. Each to there own I suppose. I know if it was me I would be pretty pissed off at her sleeping with other guys and would end the relationship.
The way I see it is, why does she feel the need to go sleep with other guys? If she really loved you, I don't think she would do this.
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She is a party animal, she said I'm the first boy that she actually care about a lot.
And she said its hard to change herself, but she is trying.
And I said, I'm there for her to help.
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(09-08-2010, 07:12 AM)NekoChan Wrote: She is a party animal, she said I'm the first boy that she actually care about a lot.
And she said its hard to change herself, but she is trying.
And I said, I'm there for her to help.
She has seen that she needs to change and she is trying to do so which is the most important thing if you want to maintain a serious relationship. All I can say really is I wish you both the best of luck and hope everything works out for you.
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It's certainly a new concept for you to just laugh it off. Good on you.
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Not weird persay. Maybe different than what most people would do.
If it were me, I probably would've dumped her because I couldn't trust her.
But you obviously love her and trust her so much, that that sort of thing seems trivial.
Bravo.
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09-08-2010, 08:50 AM
(This post was last modified: 09-08-2010, 08:56 AM by ReasonableLogic.)
Yea but in the meantime have sex with other girls and be open about it see how she reacts, I personally think she's taking advantage of you and its not fair to you dude. And it's only been a month dude and she's sleeping with how many dudes? I see it progressively getting worse and could be dangerous for both of you.
What if she brings home a disease from sleeping with another dude? You know dudes are laughing behind your back right, not that you should care, but its pretty messed up and I think you could dooo waaaay better, theres no way to take the party out of a girl unless she experiences something traumatic. If she could have fun and tell you and your able to laugh about it, then you should to and if she gets emotional about you sleeping with other girls dump her cause she's taking advantage of you. It's only fair.
it's only natural if your single, relationships are built on trust, honesty, and commitment. Thats like saying its natural to take care of another mans baby.
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(09-08-2010, 08:50 AM)ReasonableLogic Wrote: Yea but in the meantime have sex with other girls and be open about it see how she reacts, I personally think she's taking advantage of you and its not fair to you dude. And it's only been a month dude and she's sleeping with how many dudes? I see it progressively getting worse and could be dangerous for both of you.
What if she brings home a disease from sleeping with another dude? You know dudes are laughing behind your back right, not that you should care, but its pretty messed up and I think you could dooo waaaay better, theres no way to take the party out of a girl unless she experiences something traumatic. If she could have fun and tell you and your able to laugh about it, then you should to and if she gets emotional about you sleeping with other girls dump her cause she's taking advantage of you. It's only fair.
it's only natural if your single, relationships are built on trust, honesty, and commitment. Thats like saying its natural to take care of another mans baby.
Thats very good advice. (Although you could say "dude" a bit less) .
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(09-08-2010, 08:50 AM)ReasonableLogic Wrote: Yea but in the meantime have sex with other girls and be open about it see how she reacts, I personally think she's taking advantage of you and its not fair to you dude. And it's only been a month dude and she's sleeping with how many dudes? I see it progressively getting worse and could be dangerous for both of you.
What if she brings home a disease from sleeping with another dude? You know dudes are laughing behind your back right, not that you should care, but its pretty messed up and I think you could dooo waaaay better, theres no way to take the party out of a girl unless she experiences something traumatic. If she could have fun and tell you and your able to laugh about it, then you should to and if she gets emotional about you sleeping with other girls dump her cause she's taking advantage of you. It's only fair.
it's only natural if your single, relationships are built on trust, honesty, and commitment. Thats like saying its natural to take care of another mans baby.
I couldn't have said it better myself BRAVO dude Bravo.
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09-08-2010, 12:20 PM
(This post was last modified: 09-08-2010, 12:20 PM by Robbieava.)
I don't say that it's weird, but you should be more cautious. Technically it means you are having a open relationship, not fully going out.
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