02-28-2010, 10:25 AM
Well, I'm home now. And I'm gonna try to help ya with some things. .
The rich/populair thing.
Getting populair when you are rich shouldn't be that hard. Because there are tons of ppl who are gonna kiss your ass for you money.
And that's something you don't want, it's fun when everybody likes you, but they like you for your money. Not for who you are.
It's not easy to be "populair" on a real level. Nor is it really important, you just need some real friends. No asskisser, no ppl who "like" you for your money.
Be realistic, and find out if you are really "populair" or if you are just being used.
About the seperation thing. It's good you write your emotions down on a forum like this. You need to get those emotions out some way. It doesn't really matter how. But I understood you have little brothers, and you wanted to be a good model for them by not being emotional. That's 100% wrong. If you want to be a good brother you need to show emotion, you need to show them that letting your emotion out is a good thing, not a bad thing. Be creative and find a way to show them that letting your emotion out is good. Without damaging your ego Or just fudge your ego and have a real borther to brother talk with them.
Now for the bully like kids. If they bully you cuz you are rich, just let them. If you got some chill friends and crap, just be like arrogant against them, don't show off you money or something. But don't give them any atention as anger and crap. Let them talk, they will get bored. And they will lose the epic "bully-victim game".
And now for the part where you prolly are the most confused about. The girl . I've alsow had the problem that my parents won't let me date. Basicly it's not a really big deal. You don't need to lie to them or something.
The thing that your mom probably is worried about is that the relation with that girl or any other girl will make you do "bad" stuff.
The thing is that she's really stressed like your said. The last thing she wants now is you starting to get bad grades or start to smoke or something like that. I know you aren't planning to those things, but somethimes it happens. I don't know if you are new to relations... If you are there is a chance the relation will infect you in a way you may not like.
Anyway. I will just assume that won't be.
You need to confince your mom that you can handle a relation, assure your mom your grades will stay good, and you won't do dumb things.
You can alsow just let her meet the girl, if it's a smart good girl you know
If your mom meets her, and she sees that the girl is "good" she won't worry to much about you having a relation with her. That are just some little tips from me, be creative, I'm sure you know your mom good enough to get her familiar with the idea you dating someone.
Hope this helps
Owyea, the mature thing.
You may feel mature, but maturity sometimes gets confused with boredom.
If I understood good your social life isn't that active. You could start doing a sport, just test out some sports to see which one you like.
You may want to be 18 or w/e, you maybe think it's all easy and crap. No offence, but you are rich like you said. Your life was pritty easy, and you don't have any really big worry's.
I know almost for sure, if you just get a relation, do sport, hang out with friends. You will wish to stay longer 14. Years fly by. And before you know it you have all those obligations. And trust me, it ain't fun.
Hope all this will help you.
Excuse me for my grammar errors. This is not my native language
C.
The rich/populair thing.
Getting populair when you are rich shouldn't be that hard. Because there are tons of ppl who are gonna kiss your ass for you money.
And that's something you don't want, it's fun when everybody likes you, but they like you for your money. Not for who you are.
It's not easy to be "populair" on a real level. Nor is it really important, you just need some real friends. No asskisser, no ppl who "like" you for your money.
Be realistic, and find out if you are really "populair" or if you are just being used.
About the seperation thing. It's good you write your emotions down on a forum like this. You need to get those emotions out some way. It doesn't really matter how. But I understood you have little brothers, and you wanted to be a good model for them by not being emotional. That's 100% wrong. If you want to be a good brother you need to show emotion, you need to show them that letting your emotion out is a good thing, not a bad thing. Be creative and find a way to show them that letting your emotion out is good. Without damaging your ego Or just fudge your ego and have a real borther to brother talk with them.
Now for the bully like kids. If they bully you cuz you are rich, just let them. If you got some chill friends and crap, just be like arrogant against them, don't show off you money or something. But don't give them any atention as anger and crap. Let them talk, they will get bored. And they will lose the epic "bully-victim game".
And now for the part where you prolly are the most confused about. The girl . I've alsow had the problem that my parents won't let me date. Basicly it's not a really big deal. You don't need to lie to them or something.
The thing that your mom probably is worried about is that the relation with that girl or any other girl will make you do "bad" stuff.
The thing is that she's really stressed like your said. The last thing she wants now is you starting to get bad grades or start to smoke or something like that. I know you aren't planning to those things, but somethimes it happens. I don't know if you are new to relations... If you are there is a chance the relation will infect you in a way you may not like.
Anyway. I will just assume that won't be.
You need to confince your mom that you can handle a relation, assure your mom your grades will stay good, and you won't do dumb things.
You can alsow just let her meet the girl, if it's a smart good girl you know
If your mom meets her, and she sees that the girl is "good" she won't worry to much about you having a relation with her. That are just some little tips from me, be creative, I'm sure you know your mom good enough to get her familiar with the idea you dating someone.
Hope this helps
Owyea, the mature thing.
You may feel mature, but maturity sometimes gets confused with boredom.
If I understood good your social life isn't that active. You could start doing a sport, just test out some sports to see which one you like.
You may want to be 18 or w/e, you maybe think it's all easy and crap. No offence, but you are rich like you said. Your life was pritty easy, and you don't have any really big worry's.
I know almost for sure, if you just get a relation, do sport, hang out with friends. You will wish to stay longer 14. Years fly by. And before you know it you have all those obligations. And trust me, it ain't fun.
Hope all this will help you.
Excuse me for my grammar errors. This is not my native language
C.