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RE: My husband and his mum, are they normal? - DreX - 08-14-2011
You shouldnt let what she says about your mom effect you its just words and she clearly doesnt even know your mom and
about eating off his plate i dont see anything wrong with that.
RE: My husband and his mum, are they normal? - Chocothunda - 08-14-2011
My suggestion is to just be as nice as possible to her. She will slowly realize you're cool and come to her senses.
RE: My husband and his mum, are they normal? - disconiuniu - 08-14-2011
(08-14-2011, 08:12 PM)Chocothunda Wrote: My suggestion is to just be as nice as possible to her. She will slowly realize you're cool and come to her senses.
"That slowly realize" has already been 7 years after we get married.
Every time meet her, things become a fighting for MY husband between his mum and me. I'm so sick of this.
But obviously, he enjoys that much attention.
(08-14-2011, 07:42 PM)DreX Wrote: You shouldnt let what she says about your mom effect you its just words and she clearly doesnt even know your mom and
about eating off his plate i dont see anything wrong with that.
Honestly, you words make me feel bit better.
It is possible that eating from his plate means different from chinese thinking.
And you are right, she doesn't know my mum at all(they have never met). I shouldn't care what she said about my mum. Just at that moment, I feel so hurt when she had that kind of insalting opinion.
RE: My husband and his mum, are they normal? - Xplosion™ - 08-14-2011
i think you should ask her what is the problem and try and fix the issues. you just dont want to make her mad.
RE: My husband and his mum, are they normal? - disconiuniu - 08-14-2011
(08-14-2011, 09:41 PM)Xplosion™ Wrote: i think you should ask her what is the problem and try and fix the issues. you just dont want to make her mad.
The problem is kind of obvious. Such as, She doesn't like chinese blood in her family; she feel Me stole her favourate son(she divoiced for near 20 years and never had a boyfriend after that); I don't want to take any crap from her anymore...... But I'm sure even I ask her what's the problem, she won't say the real reasons.
RE: My husband and his mum, are they normal? - Xplosion™ - 08-14-2011
(08-14-2011, 09:57 PM)disconiuniu Wrote: The problem is kind of obvious. Such as, She doesn't like chinese blood in her family; she feel Me stole her favourate son(she divoiced for near 20 years and never had a boyfriend after that); I don't want to take any crap from her anymore...... But I'm sure even I ask her what's the problem, she won't say the real reasons.id tell her how you feel about it and if ahe cant handle that that you shouldnt worry about it, its your life and if she doesnt care she shouldnt be with in your life, just dont let her get to you.
RE: My husband and his mum, are they normal? - Logan - 08-14-2011
Sounds like she has something against you. Maybe confront her about it or try to get her to go somewhere with just you and her.
RE: My husband and his mum, are they normal? - Xplosion™ - 08-14-2011
(08-14-2011, 10:04 PM)Logan Wrote: Sounds like she has something against you. Maybe confront her about it or try to get her to go somewhere with just you and her.
that would seem to do something but it seems she just doesnt have a feel for her at all, she just doesnt like the fact shes been divorced for a long time and her son found someone he loves.
RE: My husband and his mum, are they normal? - disconiuniu - 08-14-2011
You guys are right, I understand.
Next time I see her, If she still keep doing it, I will tell her in front of her face. I'm not afraid.
RE: My husband and his mum, are they normal? - Xplosion™ - 08-14-2011
(08-14-2011, 10:09 PM)disconiuniu Wrote: You guys are right, I understand.
Next time I see her, If she still keep doing it, I will tell her in front of her face. I'm not afraid.
exactly and even if she doesnt take it well you were the bigger person and confronted her and if she doesnt like it you dont have to take it.