Advice on handling toddler tantrums?

flower12

So, here’s the deal. My little one has entered the dreaded ‘terrible twos’ stage and I’m drowning here, folks. Tantrums have become a daily occurrence and sometimes I feel like I’m just barely treading water. I’ve got to admit it’s wearing me down a bit. Anyone with a piece of advice, a survival guide, or just words of encouragement during this storm?

It’s not just the public meltdowns which are a public spectacle we have to live every once in a while, but even the home ones are beginning to take a toll on me. Today, we’ve had three major meltdowns - over not wanting to wear socks, not getting to scribble on the kitchen wall with crayons, and wanting to brush her own teeth (it was more of a toothpaste eating session). I mean, I get it, she’s discovering her autonomy and wants to have a say in things, but come on!

I’ve read that trying to reason with them can be helpful, but it’s a lot easier said than done, isn’t it? Trying to have a logical conversation with a two-year-old mid tantrum isn’t exactly a picnic in the park (been there, tried that, earned the t-shirt).

Though I try and keep my cool, there have been moments where I’ve raised my voice and trust me, I know that’s not helpful either. It just escalates the situation 🤔

kath77

Phew, poor you! Indeed, the twos can be such a full-on journey. Trust you’re not the only one going through this. Tried a thing called “redirection”? When my little one started stomping her feet, I would quickly distract her with something else she likes – “Oh, let’s go see if the birdies are in the garden?” or “What’s that on the fridge? Isn’t that your favourite magnet?”.

By the way, you’re doing great. Remember, this phase won’t last forever. You’re a wonderful parent for caring enough to seek advice. Hang in there!

mopsy

Absolutely with you on the redirection trick - works like a charm most times! Another thing I found useful was trying to understand the root of my kid’s tantrum. The tantrums often stemmed from frustration or some sort of discomfort. So, talking it out really helped, just making them feel heard does wonders. And you’re so right, this is just a phase! Before we know it, we’ll be dealing with the threes and their challenges! Funny how they grow so fast, eh? Stay strong, sounds like you’re doing a good job navigating though this!

flipper

Totally agree with you! I’ve found that sometimes when my little one is mid-tantrum, what helps is to change the environment – a different room, a toy, or even just stepping outside for a bit. It can sort of “reset” their mood. And yes, this phase passes before we know it… until we hit the next one hahaha. Gosh they do grow up so fast. Hang in there, fellow parent. Kudos to you! We’re all figuring out this rollercoaster ride of parenting together.