Figuring out my own gender and sexuality- need your advice

jwizz

Hey there,

I’m kind of in a pickle. I’ve been grappling with my sexuality and gender for the past few months and I’m finally ready to put it out in the open and seek some advice. Not to say that I haven’t asked for help before, but I guess now it’s just, I don’t know, different?

I’ve identified as cis and straight for quite a while, and honestly? It’s comfy here, you know? It just makes things easier, avoiding those awkward conversations, but I can’t shake this feeling that I might not be being true to myself.

Up until now I’d always been a-okay with being addressed as a she/her, but recently… well, not so much. The pronouns don’t quite seem to fit anymore. And then there’s the sexuality side of things. I’ve always considered myself attracted to men, but recently I’ve found myself questioning that as well.

Now, I’m not jumping to label myself just yet. Being a part of this forum I’ve realised that everyone goes through things at their own pace- their journey is their own, you know? I’ve seen people realise they’re gay years after they initially thought they were bi, others who realise they’re non-binary after identifying as trans. I’m in no hurry to figure it all out, just looking for advice on how to navigate all this stuff.

With Pride 🤔

flipper

It’s totally cool that you’re not in a rush to label yourself. Things like this take time to figure out, yeah? It’s like tuning an old radio; gotta find the right frequency that rings true to you. Have you considered experimenting a bit with pronouns? See if any others feel more ‘you’? As for sexuality, take it from someone who’s been there, you don’t have to define it straight away (no pun intended!) Maybe just start with acknowledging that there could be more folks out there who make your heart flutter than you first thought. Remember, it’s your journey, no one else’s. 🌈

qwerty

Sounds like you’re approaching this in a really healthy, chill way, which is awesome. Never forget that your feelings are 100% valid, and your journey is just that - yours! As far as pronouns go, it could also be helpful to chat with a friend or two about them using different ones for you, if you’re comfortable with that. Sometimes hearing them out loud from someone else can make a big difference in how they feel to you.

As for the discovery of who makes your heart flutter, definitely keep an open heart and open mind. You might surprise yourself and that’s okay. And remember, you’re not alone in this journey, there’s a whole community out here ready to support you. 💕🌈

mopsy

Absolutely agree with what’s been said already. Trying out different pronouns with friends is a great idea, kinda like trying on a new pair of shoes to see how they fit. Hopefully, you’ve got some supportive buddies around you to make this process a bit easier.

And about the love thing, it’ll all come naturally. We’re wired to fall for folks who set our hearts racing, so just let your feelings flow. Remember, no need to rush things, everything at your own pace. And like, this community? We’ve got your back. It’s all a journey, friend. Sending all the positive vibes your way, keep exploring, and stay awesome! 🌈💜

kara

You hit the nail on the head, friend. Trying out different pronouns with folks you trust can really help clear up the fog. Been there myself and it really does work. And yeah, love? That stuff just happens when you least expect it. So keep that heart open, and let it guide you towards the true you. Let the journey unfurl at your own speed, no pressures. And remember, we’re one big family here, we’re rooting for ya! 🌈💪💜 #explorationjourney #takeyourtime #you’vegotthis