(12-18-2011, 02:51 PM)iDiDiT Wrote: [ -> ]
OK
I care about other people, I have just been back stabbed, lied to, disrespected, ignored, stood up, ditched, and used enough to make me jaded. I think that happens to goodlooking 'nice' people.
You can't trust people. That's why that happened to you. You have to care about them, but not trust them. You're the only one who will never betray your trust.
I know what you meant by being talked to because you have boobs.
It means he only talks to you because you're a girl and most men you've encountered only talk to you because in their heads, on some level, in a relative alternate universe -they can get with you.
Parents always make suicide attempts about them, because it's hard for them to understand that you're life is largely not about them, when you as their child, have been most of their life for a very long time.
Being most of their life doesn't necessarily make them good parents, you can be all they live for and work for, or the excuse they hide behind, or the target at which to aim all the blame and guilt for all that went wrong with them. Parents, are also people.
Your mom was wrong to say that. But you can't really help her see it differently. Not right now anyway -these things take time.
I know why you let yourself be felt up. It was simply a step in this process you call acceptance and is partly giving up.
The guy would not budge and you didn't have the strength in you to tell him off, you didn't enjoy it -you just wanted it to be over.
You're tired that's what's making you feel numb inside, that move between caring so much it hurts to not caring at all even when it does.
But you're 16. It will continue to suck for a while.
There are things you can't change and one of those is the past.
It can get better. It will get better.
If people think of you as a whore, you just have to work on the things you need to change to move on from that reputation.
You can't change the past but you can change the future. I don't know if the "secret" will do it for you. It helped me, but I know how you feel, even if for different reasons.
If you need a friend. I'm here and I'm not just saying that. I can't PM you, but I'm here. We're all kind of broken but we can get better.
After the volcano bursts, the most fertile lands come up.
Take some time to think about what you want, rather than what you've had. Visualize it, and look for the path within, you'll find tiny steps you can take to make things better now.
I honestly think it's quite hypocritical of society to judge women with the so called "whore" word when everything they do is promote that exchange.
(12-18-2011, 03:14 PM)Cykn Wrote: [ -> ]You can't trust people. That's why that happened to you. You have to care about them, but not trust them. You're the only one who will never betray your trust.
You dont think you can trust people you care about?
(12-18-2011, 04:38 PM)iDiDiT Wrote: [ -> ]You dont think you can trust people you care about?
No, you can care about someone without trusting them.
I never want to see you unhappy. That doesn't mean I trust you.
(12-18-2011, 03:42 PM)maria Wrote: [ -> ]I know what you meant by being talked to because you have boobs.
It means he only talks to you because you're a girl and most men you've encountered only talk to you because in their heads, on some level, in a relative alternate universe -they can get with you.
Parents always make suicide attempts about them, because it's hard for them to understand that you're life is largely not about them, when you as their child, have been most of their life for a very long time.
Being most of their life doesn't necessarily make them good parents, you can be all they live for and work for, or the excuse they hide behind, or the target at which to aim all the blame and guilt for all that went wrong with them. Parents, are also people.
Your mom was wrong to say that. But you can't really help her see it differently. Not right now anyway -these things take time.
I know why you let yourself be felt up. It was simply a step in this process you call acceptance and is partly giving up.
The guy would not budge and you didn't have the strength in you to tell him off, you didn't enjoy it -you just wanted it to be over.
You're tired that's what's making you feel numb inside, that move between caring so much it hurts to not caring at all even when it does.
But you're 16. It will continue to suck for a while.
There are things you can't change and one of those is the past.
It can get better. It will get better.
If people think of you as a whore, you just have to work on the things you need to change to move on from that reputation.
You can't change the past but you can change the future. I don't know if the "secret" will do it for you. It helped me, but I know how you feel, even if for different reasons.
If you need a friend. I'm here and I'm not just saying that. I can't PM you, but I'm here. We're all kind of broken but we can get better.
After the volcano bursts, the most fertile lands come up.
Take some time to think about what you want, rather than what you've had. Visualize it, and look for the path within, you'll find tiny steps you can take to make things better now.
I honestly think it's quite hypocritical of society to judge women with the so called "whore" word when everything they do is promote that exchange.
I know it gets better. But until it does, what do I do with myself? How do I improve a reputation I didn't earn in the first place? How do I explain myself to a mother I can't even look at without feeling endless rage towards her? Why would I even need to? When you grow tired of lying on the ground, people walking on you, when you get to your feet, you struggle to stand. It's easier to lie back down.
It is easier but it feels exactly the same as standing up. Same struggle.
What do you do with yourself?
Well at your age, what helped me was finding something to hold on to. It was stupid, but it helped me. I read Harry Potter and I always thought if this kid -I know fictional and all- can get through being bullied by his aunt and uncle, beaten up with a frying pan and still manage not to hate everything, so can I.
It helped me then. Now it's sports, I don't have a gym or a team, but I jog.
I got a P90X video from a friend, I can't do what that guy does but the yoga and stretch videos help.
I tried meditating and that helped a lot, but I lost my way and now I'm trying to get back to that.
You do something to occupy your mind in something better. Something good. Whatever it is.
You'll find friends like that, trust me.
Those friends will not judge you on who you were or might have been but on the person they are seeing in the present. By your actions and choices, rather than by what other people say.
Everyone is different, but this helped me. I'm 25 now and for me it got better and sometimes it's hard and feels like nothing changed but it gets better.
I think you make a pretty good Navi ;)
(12-18-2011, 04:58 PM)maria Wrote: [ -> ]It is easier but it feels exactly the same as standing up. Same struggle.
What do you do with yourself?
Well at your age, what helped me was finding something to hold on to. It was stupid, but it helped me. I read Harry Potter and I always thought if this kid -I know fictional and all- can get through being bullied by his aunt and uncle, beaten up with a frying pan and still manage not to hate everything, so can I.
It helped me then. Now it's sports, I don't have a gym or a team, but I jog.
I got a P90X video from a friend, I can't do what that guy does but the yoga and stretch videos help.
I tried meditating and that helped a lot, but I lost my way and now I'm trying to get back to that.
You do something to occupy your mind in something better. Something good. Whatever it is.
You'll find friends like that, trust me.
Those friends will not judge you on who you were or might have been but on the person they are seeing in the present. By your actions and choices, rather than by what other people say.
Everyone is different, but this helped me. I'm 25 now and for me it got better and sometimes it's hard and feels like nothing changed but it gets better.
I used to read a lot, but now I mostly just play video games.
I also volunteer at an animal shelter. I feel better when I'm there, but as soon as I leave, it goes back to how it was before I was there.
(12-18-2011, 09:46 PM)iDiDiT Wrote: [ -> ]I think you make a pretty good Navi ;)
XD What?
Navi, is the fairy from Ocarina of Time x) short for Navigator
(12-19-2011, 12:42 AM)iDiDiT Wrote: [ -> ]Navi, is the fairy from Ocarina of Time x) short for Navigator
I know who Navi is, she's my profile picture on basically everything.
I just don't get why you say I'm like her.
I find that a fresh start just means cutting ties with the ones you know arn't good for you and if you can't figure that out, ask the smartest person you know who is and isn't a good person