01-18-2011, 02:54 AM
Get ready for this, because it's going to be looooong.
So I'm 18 and I have an almost 13 year old sister. Let me start off by saying, I feel really bad for my sister, and I'll explain why later. My mom has been acting up lately (past 1 or 2 years) ever since we lost our two story house due to financial problems. My dad used to be the only employed person in our family, making around 80k a year. Unfortunately, the company he worked for shut down, so this forced my mom to also get an $8 minimum wage job (she's a co-manager now, so she makes a little higher than that, but not much higher). My dad was receiving unemployment funds for a little while until he found himself a job at a Home Depot distribution center, only making around $12 an hour (much less than unemployment, but he didn't want to exploit the system). So yeah, a big drop in income, which was hard to adjust to. Thankfully though, he carpools the 45 minute commute with his friend. We're now living in a one story house, that I enjoy much better than our previous two story house for various reasons. One, it was becoming hard to pay every month, and two, I just don't like big houses. I'm the type of person that will live in a shack if I have to... I don't care how big the house is, as long as I have somewhere to live. Ever since we switched houses, she's been acting up. She has become more stressed, more depressed, more strict, etc. I hate to say this, but I think she's becoming crazy. She's been on stress/antidepressant pills (Paxil) for God knows how long now. She always tells me that she "misses the old house," and that she wants a bigger home.
Too be honest, the house we have now is perfectly fine. I mean, it's a place to live, what more can you ask for? For once in a long time, we've been getting our bills payed on time without any hardship, but yet, my mom just doesn't seem to get it. She's obsessed with bigger and better looking houses or something. She thinks she can just buy a house just like that, no problems whatsoever. The house problem is just one way she's been acting up.
So this is where I get to my sister. I feel that my sister has no life because my mom basically controls her. I've never seen anyone so strict like my mother. My sister has never been to any of her friends' houses because my mom makes up stupid excuses like "she's going to get raped," or "kidnapped." She won't even let her walk to the park with her friends. I've even had people tell me to my face that my mom is just too over reactive with things. She's OVER overprotective. My sister, however, talks back, and I think it's for the better. I back my sister up because she has brings up very good points when she complains to my mom. Now, my sister and I never had the best relationship as a sibling, but this is where I back her up because I know she's right. Every time my sister brings up a solid point, my mom comes up with some rhetoric bullshit that doesn't make any sense whatsoever and it kills me because she thinks she's right all of the time because she's our mother. My sister has no freedom at all. Zip, zero, nada, nothing. That's it for the sister part.
And there's some more..... Don't get me wrong, I love my mom, I'm a responsible person, I listen to her, but lately, she's been pushing my buttons for other reasons. For one, she's the laziest person I've ever seen. For example, some days she works from 9:30 AM to 5:30 PM with a one hour lunch break. When she comes home on her break, the first thing she does is talk on the phone, for her entire break. She calls my family members (usually my aunts or her friends) and talks the ENTIRE time. She's addicted to the phone and the entire family is fed up with it. When she doesn't have work, she wakes up, and the first thing she does is go to the phone and starts talking to people. No f*cking joke, sometimes for a few hours at a time, without stopping. Call after call. This pisses me off because for one, sometimes she wakes me up for talking too loud, and for two, it seems like she just has no life. Now, aside from talking on the phone, after she gets off from work, she goes straight to her bed and literally watches the television (soap operas and awful movies on the Lifetime network)/talks on the phone until she goes to sleep (from 5:30 to 10:30). She seriously only gets up to use the bathroom or to grab a cup of tea, and that's it. Whenever the phone rings and it's not within her reaching capabilities, she yells at me and my sister to get the phone, and if we don't, she gets very, very angry. She won't even get up to get the God damn phone. Of course, neither me, nor my sister give her the phone because we're just completely fed up with her bullshit. For two, she likes to repeat things ALOT. For example, she'll ask me if I am hungry. I'll usually say no. She then proceeds to ask me the same exact question, word for word, 30 seconds later, no exaggeration. Of course, I say no. Then she does it for the third or fourth time, and I start to get a little furious. I ask her how many times she's going to repeat herself after getting an answer. You might be thinking, well how does this piss you off this bad? Well, anytime my sister and I ask her a question, it's like we're talking to a wall. We never get an answer until we do something outrageous, like yell, or poke her, or something real ridiculous. Now these questions aren't top secret. We ask her something simple like, "Hey, what time are you getting off of work tomorrow?" After asking her numerous times, she begins to yell. Well damn, now you know how I feel, right? Except I actually answer the question the first go around.
Anyway, I can go on and on and on with reasons. But the main point is, lately, I've been getting fed up with my mom. She annoys the living hell out of my sister and I. My main concern, really, is those f*cking pills she takes for stress. I don't think they're for the better, and they are probably killing her slowly. She just takes things way too seriously and can't just lay back and chill. Seriously, God help me, because I don't know what to do. As you can see, I'm quite fed up. I wouldn't have ever made this thread if I wasn't serious about it, but it has gotten to that point.
Sorry, no tldr version.
So I'm 18 and I have an almost 13 year old sister. Let me start off by saying, I feel really bad for my sister, and I'll explain why later. My mom has been acting up lately (past 1 or 2 years) ever since we lost our two story house due to financial problems. My dad used to be the only employed person in our family, making around 80k a year. Unfortunately, the company he worked for shut down, so this forced my mom to also get an $8 minimum wage job (she's a co-manager now, so she makes a little higher than that, but not much higher). My dad was receiving unemployment funds for a little while until he found himself a job at a Home Depot distribution center, only making around $12 an hour (much less than unemployment, but he didn't want to exploit the system). So yeah, a big drop in income, which was hard to adjust to. Thankfully though, he carpools the 45 minute commute with his friend. We're now living in a one story house, that I enjoy much better than our previous two story house for various reasons. One, it was becoming hard to pay every month, and two, I just don't like big houses. I'm the type of person that will live in a shack if I have to... I don't care how big the house is, as long as I have somewhere to live. Ever since we switched houses, she's been acting up. She has become more stressed, more depressed, more strict, etc. I hate to say this, but I think she's becoming crazy. She's been on stress/antidepressant pills (Paxil) for God knows how long now. She always tells me that she "misses the old house," and that she wants a bigger home.
Too be honest, the house we have now is perfectly fine. I mean, it's a place to live, what more can you ask for? For once in a long time, we've been getting our bills payed on time without any hardship, but yet, my mom just doesn't seem to get it. She's obsessed with bigger and better looking houses or something. She thinks she can just buy a house just like that, no problems whatsoever. The house problem is just one way she's been acting up.
So this is where I get to my sister. I feel that my sister has no life because my mom basically controls her. I've never seen anyone so strict like my mother. My sister has never been to any of her friends' houses because my mom makes up stupid excuses like "she's going to get raped," or "kidnapped." She won't even let her walk to the park with her friends. I've even had people tell me to my face that my mom is just too over reactive with things. She's OVER overprotective. My sister, however, talks back, and I think it's for the better. I back my sister up because she has brings up very good points when she complains to my mom. Now, my sister and I never had the best relationship as a sibling, but this is where I back her up because I know she's right. Every time my sister brings up a solid point, my mom comes up with some rhetoric bullshit that doesn't make any sense whatsoever and it kills me because she thinks she's right all of the time because she's our mother. My sister has no freedom at all. Zip, zero, nada, nothing. That's it for the sister part.
And there's some more..... Don't get me wrong, I love my mom, I'm a responsible person, I listen to her, but lately, she's been pushing my buttons for other reasons. For one, she's the laziest person I've ever seen. For example, some days she works from 9:30 AM to 5:30 PM with a one hour lunch break. When she comes home on her break, the first thing she does is talk on the phone, for her entire break. She calls my family members (usually my aunts or her friends) and talks the ENTIRE time. She's addicted to the phone and the entire family is fed up with it. When she doesn't have work, she wakes up, and the first thing she does is go to the phone and starts talking to people. No f*cking joke, sometimes for a few hours at a time, without stopping. Call after call. This pisses me off because for one, sometimes she wakes me up for talking too loud, and for two, it seems like she just has no life. Now, aside from talking on the phone, after she gets off from work, she goes straight to her bed and literally watches the television (soap operas and awful movies on the Lifetime network)/talks on the phone until she goes to sleep (from 5:30 to 10:30). She seriously only gets up to use the bathroom or to grab a cup of tea, and that's it. Whenever the phone rings and it's not within her reaching capabilities, she yells at me and my sister to get the phone, and if we don't, she gets very, very angry. She won't even get up to get the God damn phone. Of course, neither me, nor my sister give her the phone because we're just completely fed up with her bullshit. For two, she likes to repeat things ALOT. For example, she'll ask me if I am hungry. I'll usually say no. She then proceeds to ask me the same exact question, word for word, 30 seconds later, no exaggeration. Of course, I say no. Then she does it for the third or fourth time, and I start to get a little furious. I ask her how many times she's going to repeat herself after getting an answer. You might be thinking, well how does this piss you off this bad? Well, anytime my sister and I ask her a question, it's like we're talking to a wall. We never get an answer until we do something outrageous, like yell, or poke her, or something real ridiculous. Now these questions aren't top secret. We ask her something simple like, "Hey, what time are you getting off of work tomorrow?" After asking her numerous times, she begins to yell. Well damn, now you know how I feel, right? Except I actually answer the question the first go around.
Anyway, I can go on and on and on with reasons. But the main point is, lately, I've been getting fed up with my mom. She annoys the living hell out of my sister and I. My main concern, really, is those f*cking pills she takes for stress. I don't think they're for the better, and they are probably killing her slowly. She just takes things way too seriously and can't just lay back and chill. Seriously, God help me, because I don't know what to do. As you can see, I'm quite fed up. I wouldn't have ever made this thread if I wasn't serious about it, but it has gotten to that point.
Sorry, no tldr version.
