I must say that every human being should be respected and the girls are the most sensitive and caring creatures and we must not break their heart rather facilitate them in every way possible and never cheat them.
As hard as breaking up with her will be, you need to do it sincerely. If you string her along for any longer, she'll only grow more fond of you therefore making it more difficult for you to break her the news. Just tell her that you're not looking for a relationship right now and you simply want to remain friends. If she's helped you as much as you say she has, she'll be compassionate and understanding.
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I don't know if I should, should I just pretend that I love her as she does to me? I can tell that she loves me very much, and I don't want her to think "oh wow, he used me as a rebound, now he's all fine." Should I just wait until she decides to break up? Then at least I won't be hurt because I wouldn't have much feelings and we can possibly remain best friends.
(12-27-2010, 09:32 PM)Kharnage Wrote: [ -> ]I don't know if I should, should I just pretend that I love her as she does to me? I can tell that she loves me very much, and I don't want her to think "oh wow, he used me as a rebound, now he's all fine." Should I just wait until she decides to break up? Then at least I won't be hurt because I wouldn't have much feelings and we can possibly remain best friends.
My dear friend, if you decide to do that, she'll be more frustrated at the fact that you pretended to love her while her feelings towards you were genuine. Don't make this any harder than it already is. Tell her, plain and simple. You're making this complicated for no reason. After you tell her you want to remain friends, tell her how much you like her and so on and so forth that way she doesn't pull back too much.
I never broke up with a girl before so you tell me some tip son how to do it?
like location, time, moment, what to say etc.
(12-28-2010, 08:39 AM)Kharnage Wrote: [ -> ]I never broke up with a girl before so you tell me some tip son how to do it?
like location, time, moment, what to say etc.
Do it at a place where she can leave if she feels uncomfortable after you've told her. For example, don't do it when you're at her house because if she wants some time to think, she'll feel quite mean asking you to leave whereas if you're in a public place or at your house and you tell her, if she needs to walk away to get some air after you've told her, she'll be able to do so without seeming rude.
Just tell her that you're not looking for a relationship right now and that you'd like to remain friends. Don't mention a word about your feelings of physical attraction; it will only sadden her worse.
If you don't like her dump her, but ask to be friends.
You never know, you might want her back.
From the day you accepted to be her bf you acknowledge you had something against her and want to be together. Now because your friends said you can do better probably makes you feel it wasn't your best and your feelings had change.
If this is truly what you feel right now and with no regrets of going back to becoming a "best friend", a break up should do this. You should tell her personally in an enclosed space away from public and let her down easy. It is not her fault (she will feel she is not good enough or not pretty enough and your leaving because of it.) and put all the blame on yourself that you arent seeking a relationship because of school or something. It would sadden her if she finds out you broke up with her and later found you together with another girl. Let her down gently and tell her you would like to still be best friend. If she chose not to, respect her wishes.
If you prolong it, the more closer she will become and would make things much harder to let go. The quicker to end it would be the best.
I have realized that breaking up is not what I really want, I am honestly really happy when I'm with her so I'm going to stay with her.
(12-29-2010, 06:22 PM)Kharnage Wrote: [ -> ]I have realized that breaking up is not what I really want, I am honestly really happy when I'm with her so I'm going to stay with her.
Finally!
Lol was it that hard?
Now go forth and multiply, wait how old are you again? Nvm.
Be happy
